The Backbiting Bug

I know that we all talk about this all the time how its in our nature to pull each other down. We do it all the time. Its like its fun to watch someone falling down a slippery slope. Either its funny because the slope is slippery and the person missed it or its just great to see the person falling so that you can rise for a change? I see it at work all the time. People take things so personal. So what if your proposal was not picked? NO its not because someone did juju on you or because the boss likes him more! Why cant it just be because maybe this time your work sucked! Yes so pull it together and come up with a better suggestion next time. In reality what happens is his idea was not selected so he blames it on her for being selected and gossips about her to a colleague who listens and then when working with the same girl later own has his prejudice because now he judges her for being picked. Eventually you have teams of people around based on events that have happened at the office. Group A are all those that have a lot of complaining to do about the same person or issue instead of trying to figure out what they can do to make it better, Group B are all those jealous about someone advancing to the next level so just find all these excuses to bring the person down. Group C are all those independent people that keep a grudge over the smallest issues and never talk about it. And then theres my group--Group Zero--who really couldnt care less! I literally come in and out of work. I work 12 hours a day in all sorts of departments and come accross so many characters and see so much going on around the office and I wonder WHERE IS ALL THIS ENERGY COMING FROM?! I read a quote that said "You know your busy when you have too little time in day to worry and too tired at night to not enjoy your sleep". Point is we are no longer in highschool for things to be taken so personally. If you have time to backbight and bicker then your not doing something right. If you have a problem with someone, sort it out with them and forget about it. Give them a chance or cut them out. Whats the point of back and forth, "oh im not talking to that guy, because bla bla bla" your wasting your energy on unimportant things! Do you agree that fighting someone takes more energy than being friendly or on an "ok, we work together so lets get along terms with the person?" So if you know that bit of information try and use less energy to be more effective and effiecient. Not to say that Group Zero doesnt mess up sometimes. Sometimes I hurt peoples feelings, I say things or do things that im not supposed to and it hurts them or makes them angry. When I hear it I try to change what it is I have done to make the person feel better. Sometimes I fail, most of the time I pass. So I always try. We're not perfect right, but we can try to be.

So you are officially a backbiting bug if you are one of those people that complains about ghanaians being the way they are and yet do the same thing by belonging to GROUP A, B or C. Why are you happy when someone is slipping? Is it because the person is mean and they finally desrve whats coming for them? Is it because of something someone has told you? or do you just like to be ahead so wanna see the next person falling? Can you just join Group Zero and have flaws but be willing to change things around? Yes I do believe that we can be loyal to each other and we can help eachother not be backbiting.

The worst is when you hear a foreigner say yeah Ghanaians are not loyal to eachother, infact they pull eachother down. It hurts deep in my soul, because even though I've said it too I dont want anyone else to say it!!!! Can we change and destroy the backbiting bugs within ourselves? or is this just wishful thinking?

Keep yourself BUSY this week, but not too busy to comment on my blog. ha ha ha.

Holiday tomorrow! YAYYYYYY! Need I read over this blog? Im hungry so I cant..sorry for any typos or messed up train of thought...

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